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The Good Liar

I love a good movie.  There is a new movie out now called “The Good Liar” that stars Helen Mirren and Ian McKellen.  I don’t usually go to R-rated movies but I made an exception for this one and went to see it last night.  It was a good illustration of how casually we lie to others.  It got me thinking about lies vs. truth.

When I was a child, I was generally truthful.  However, there was a particular phase I went through wherein I told a lot of lies.  Sometimes I lied to keep myself from getting in trouble and sometimes I lied for no discernible reason.  I suspect that I was not a “good” liar, though, as I always seemed to get in trouble in spite of my lies (and often because of them).

A lying tongue hates those it hurts,
    and a flattering mouth works ruin.  Proverbs 26:28

That’s pretty amazing to me.  “A lying tongue HATES those it hurts.”  We dishonor others when we are not truthful with them.  Anyone who has been deceived by someone else can attest to this.

I remember the feeling that I had the first time that I realized that someone close to me had intentionally deceived me.  I was a child, but I remember that I was absolutely crushed.  I could not believe that they had lied to me; this was someone I thought I could trust!  Even at the young age of 5 or 6, I started to wonder what other lies I was being told.

Perhaps it’s because of these experiences that I now value truthfulness so much – in myself and in others.  I recently ended a relationship with someone dear to me because of the person’s pattern of deception which repeated in spite of being addressed on numerous occasions.  This person was a good liar, and I often didn’t realize that I was being deceived until the truth came out later, as it inevitably does.  I was unable to “read between the lies”.  I no longer trust that person at all, and it breaks my heart.  This person had an issue of character that played out in our relationship.

On the other hand, I am blessed to have relationships with many who are trustworthy.  Their trustworthiness has been proven time and time again, and I have no need to question it.  Their character has been tested and affirmed.  This Proverb is true of them:

Listen, for I have trustworthy things to say;
    I open my lips to speak what is right.  Proverbs 8:6

It is hard enough when we are lied to within our relationships.  This leads to the death of relationships, but not to eternal death.  However, there is another who will lie to you:

44 You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.  John 8:44

He is “the father of lies” and “there is no truth in him”.  This is Satan’s character and it always plays out that way.  He tries to seduce you to his way of thinking, but his deception leads to the death of your soul.

There is One Who will never lie to us or deceive us, and His name is Jesus Christ.  In His Word, He tells us:

The Lord detests lying lips,
    but he delights in people who are trustworthy.  Proverbs 12:22

It is no wonder that the Lord delights in those who are trustworthy because He is truth.  There is no deception in Him.  That is the crux of His character.  He cannot lie or deceive because it would be against His character.

Jesus also says:

“I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”  John 14:6

So, then, if Jesus can only speak the truth, we need to examine His claim that “no one comes to the Father except through me”.  This cannot be a lie, because while people can choose to behave out of character, God cannot.  All of His ways lead to eternal life.

Friend, if you want to get to Heaven and to be with the one true God, there is only one way to do it, and that’s through a saving relationship with Jesus Christ.  It’s not through Buddha or Mohammed or being “spiritual but not religious” or any other path.  It’s only through Jesus.  Examine His claims within His Word for yourself and you will find that this is the truth.  Amen!

 

 

 

Focused on Whatever

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things.”  Philippians 4:8 (NIV)

Early in my walk with Jesus, I realized that what I thought about and what I exposed myself to made a significant difference, both to my mood and to my continued walk with Christ.  There was certain music that I had loved for years, but in listening to it with my “new ears” I found that it put me in a foul mood and made me feel more aggressive every time I listened to it.  I found that foul language affected me differently than it had before I knew Jesus, and I no longer wanted to be exposed to it.  (I also no longer wanted to speak it, although that is a struggle that I haven’t yet fully mastered.)  I found that certain movies or movie scenes were not helpful to my walk, even though some of them were movies that I had watched often and previously enjoyed.

What was I to do about all of this?

For me, the decision was simple:  It had to go.  All of it.  I threw away hundreds of dollars’ worth of CDs and tapes and videos; they all ended up in the trash bin.  I quit seeing R rated movies as I found elements of them too disturbing to my inner peace.  I found myself more often listening to the Christian music stations than the secular ones.

My approach to this may not be for everyone; I just know that it worked for me.  I still listen to select secular music as well as Christian music.  I go to movies with family-friendly ratings.  I find that I haven’t missed anything of importance to me at all.  I have found that it’s easier to keep my thoughts fixed on Jesus and things of the Kingdom when I minimize the unhelpful influences.  My heart stays freer and happier when my thoughts are fixed on the important things.

What do you do to focus on the “whatever”?