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Do Not Repay Evil for Evil

17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. – Romans 12:17,18 

I was going to write a very different post today, but I just read Romans 12 and got convicted, so I’m going to write about that instead.

Last week, someone close to me did something that hurt me quite deeply.  It was not the first time this had happened, and this time what was done will, sadly, change our relationship forever.  This person acted throughout the week as if nothing had happened.

Yesterday, I had a chance to demonstrate grace to this person who had hurt me, and I utterly failed at it.  I was not grace-giving at all.

The fact that I was hurt deeply and that the person is unrepentant is a problem, to be sure.  However, I can’t control that.

The real problem is what I did.  Instead of offering my pain and hurt to Jesus, I nursed that wound.  I was justified in my anger and hurt, but instead of turning it fully over to Him, I held onto some of it.  It festered all week.

It didn’t turn out well.

I was rude to the person.  There’s no excuse for that.  It was a great opportunity to extend the grace that I have in Jesus Christ, and I completely whiffed the ball.  I didn’t follow Romans 12:18 and do all that I could do to live in peace with this person.

Let me be clear:  There are times when someone else’s actions or words require that you take a step back from the relationship.  There is nothing wrong with having healthy boundaries.  However, don’t repay evil with evil – in other words, show grace and kindness at ALL times, even when you are deeply hurt.  It is possible to show grace even while establishing your boundaries.

Today I am repenting before God.

Today I will give a heartfelt apology to this other person for yesterday’s behavior.  With the power of Christ that lives in me, I will in the future do all that I can to live in peace with this person.

Today I am grateful for grace and for second chances.



A Valentine's Thought About Nothing

I know many who dread Valentine’s Day every year. It can be very difficult for those who long to have a significant other, someone special with whom to spend time and do romantic things.

While I understand the desire to experience that with another human being, isn’t it amazing that we already have Someone who loves us unconditionally? Someone who gave Himself sacrificially for us. Someone who has never stopped loving us and who never will, no matter what. In fact, NOTHING can separate us from His love. That’s incredible! Our marital status, our employment status, our bank balance, and even our sins cannot separate us from His love. That’s the kind of love that I want! That’s the kind of love that Jesus offers.

Have you ever stopped to consider how great His love is for you personally? If not, I invite you to do so. Just ask Him to show you His love for you, and it will be His great pleasure to do it. If you need some help, just message me — it would be my privilege to help you hear His voice.

Happy Valentine’s Day!